Feb 23rd 2006

At the secret agent's of love HQ a.k.a. Making Advances we are finally recovering from Valentine's day hullabaloo. It's been fun using heart shaped clip art and attending singles events in London trying to spread a little lurve around. V. day has never been a big event for me as personally (get ready for it) my relationship is like Valentine's day everyday :o)) However that's just the sort of smug married-ness that would cause some of my single friends to punch me in the face! And that wouldn't really surprise me either as there are a few cases of the Valentine's day blues floating around. For some single people no matter how happy they are with their status there is always a bit of a sting in that marketer’s dream of a day that says to them "you don't have a partner at the moment"

So why am I blogging about this? Well as a secret agent of love I feel duty bound to let my single friends in on the secret that Valentine's day is NOT your friend... sssshhhh don't tell anyone I said this - after all as a relationship coach I might be expected to embrace it! For some people Valentines shennanigans can reinforce the illusion that having the relationship of your dreams is unobtainable. I suppose it could be compared to a lot of other things in this modern society of ours that ensure we are striving... like air brushed shots of A-listers or the latest must have gadget. Constant reminders that there is place to get that is better than where we are right now. If we are trying to get somewhere then we might fall victim to thinking that where we are right now isn't good enough and when it comes to all things love and relationships dissatisfaction with your current situation isn't actually the most resourceful place to be. So what does actually work when you're single at this time of year? Being happy being single and believing that you are God's gift to men or women is just the ticket! If you want to meet someone then being happy being single is the best place to start... it's where we start with a lot of our clients as well.

Well time to go and do what all secret agents who work for the big L (LOVE) do when they are not converting the planet into a big ball of loving human beings... eat pizza!

Toodlepip til next time...

The Secret Agent of Love - Sarah Pridham